creatively insecure woman

I have been fortunate to work with and observe many types of creative people in my career, and it’s clear to me that we have one characteristic in common: We are all tone deaf to our own creativity.

Whether it is art, writing, design, building, or small business ideas, when we evaluate our own creative product — especially early in the process — it’s usually not a favorable evaluation. And when we measure our own product against that of others, our work suffers by comparison. I’ve seen it happen with my creative friends and I’ve experienced it myself.

This tendency can prevent us from creating at all, depriving the world of our talent and us of the joy that comes with expressing creativity.

When the fear of being judged and found lacking by society, colleagues, or others keeps you from expressing your creativity in your ideas for your small business, instead of trying for a masterpiece, allow yourself to just do it badly.

It might seem counterintuitive or even downright wrong, when for years you have probably heard people say, “If it’s worth doing, it’s worh doing well.” But for many of us, especially women, trying to do something well blocks us from even starting.

It’s just too intimidating to try to be perfect all of the time! Just do it badly!

For example, I’ve never been one to write to an outline, in spite of the many teachers who have urged the technique. If I try to write in the perfect, linear fashion, with nice, neat transitions, it is a laborious, painful, and often fruitless process. On the other hand, if I let myself follow my natural tendency to write in a messy, circular, jumbled process without expecting linear transitions or the perfect words, I eventually write my way to a product I can point to with pride.

Doing it badly means forging ahead without worrying about the outcome. It’s a bit like sticking your tongue out at the perfection ogre.

Where can you unleash creativity in your small business ideas by just doing it badly?

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small business stopwatch

Technology has changed a lot of things in our lives. One thing that has changed, and not for the better, is our perception of time.

When I worked in government in the 1980s, we had computers, but no fax machines (and no email, of course). I remember when we first got a telecopier. For those of you who don’t remember telecopiers, they were basically prehistoric fax machines. Like a fax machine, a telecopier would send a document over the phone line. Unlike a fax machine, one page of a document required about 30-60 minutes to transmit. Back then, we thought this was a miracle. Instead of an overnight wait to send a document across geography, we could do it in a few hours. Then, on the heels of the telecopier, along came the fax machine. An even bigger miracle. With a fax machine, transmitting a page required less than a minute.

So, why is it that I have found myself sitting in front of my computer, encouraging my email to go faster? I think it’s because as technology gets faster, we readjust our expectations of how fast everything else should move. This creates a syndrome I call E-Expectations.

E-Expectations are the expectations that since we can communicate instantaneously–because of technology and the Internet–we can also perform instantaneously.

E-Expectations are apparent when we fail to allow a realistic amount of time for completion of a request. We expect an instant response to an email simply because it is possible–never mind that a useful reply requires some thought on the part of the other person. We expect that because the person on the other end of the phone has access to a computer, the information we need is instantly available. And when our E-Expectations are not met, we react with emotions that range from mild irritation to outrage.

You may have experienced the unpleasant result of E-Expectations in your small business. The arrival of electronic information at our fingertips has shortened the patience span of customers. Today, it seems to take very little to send a customer into a tirade, and dealing with an irate customer is never pleasant.

However, you can soothe irritation or even prevent indignation by managing expectations with your customers.

How?

  • If customers call for service, explain the process and give them a timeline
  • If your customers need information and you can’t provide it immediately, give them a time estimate for when they can expect your response
  • If you are part way through a project, don’t wait for completion, give your client updates along the way
  • When you do give time frames, remember: “Underpromise and overdeliver”

And remember, when you are the customer on the other end of the line, manage your own expectations by asking about timelines and processes, instead of assuming instant ability and then blaming the other person when they don’t meet your E-Expectations.

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dress up diva

Remember when you were a kid and pretending to be someone else was just a fun game? You can use the same idea in your small business to get to know your customer, up close and personal.

Knowing your customer is critical to the success of your business. You cannot create effective products, marketing copy and materials, processes, or ideas that will delight your customer if you don’t understand her life, her worries, her skills, her dreams, and her goals.

Some years ago I read an article about a company that served aging customers. To give their employees the opportunity to get into the customer’s head, they had them spend time wearing gloves and special glasses that impaired their vision.

I thought of this recently at the grocery store, as three young employees stood around chatting while an older woman in front of me struggled to put her overloaded plastic sacks into her cart. I stepped ahead and loaded the woman’s cart for her.

If grocery stores were to give their employees the opportunity to spend a few hours working with glasses that impaired their vision, gloves that make their fingers fumble, and arm weights that make them difficult to lift, might they be more likely to help an older woman struggling in the future? I would be happy if they even learned the difference between weight and volume when they are loading a grocery bag to the splitting point!

Pretending to be your customer doesn’t have to be a physical experience. It’s even more fun to play Let’s Pretend mentally.

Spend the day pretending to be someone else, to not know what you know, to try out someone else’s dreams and worries. Look at your products with a stranger’s eyes. What ideas for your small business come to mind? What questions do you have? What tasks could you easily accomplish as yourself but might puzzle your customers?

In your small business, the idea of playing Let’s Pretend could seem like a waste of time. But you may be surprised if you immerse yourself in the game.

By going about your day as your customer, you will not just improve your current products, your marketing copy, or your web site; you may also generate profitable new small business ideas that will delight your real customers.

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small business bubble

I was not surprised by the results of the recent elections. Apparently, some people were.

My hunch is that they were trapped in an infinite loop bubble.

It happens in government, in big business, and in small business. Ideas and issues don’t make it past the gatekeepers to the leaders who need to have a full picture of what is happening with their customers or constituents.

Why? Ideas and information are filtered to protect leaders, whether they are small business owners, big business CEOs or the President of the United States. And they become trapped in an infinite loop bubble.

Surrounded by a culture of yes-sir or yes-ma’am, they lose touch with what is happening in the real world. To a person who is not caught up in the loop, it is difficult to understand how someone could make such choices, but to the person ensnared in the loop, it’s like being surrounded by a bubble and protected from the realities of the world. All that is required is insulation or selective hearing.

This infinite loop is a syndrome that can be seen over and over in the behavior of sports stars, rock bands, and other famous people, not to mention…government executives. Whenever you ask yourself the question, “What were they thinking?” you can probably assume that person was caught in an infinite loop bubble.

Now, you might think this cannot possibly happen in your small business. Your idea is that you know exactly what your customers are thinking, that your employees are telling you everything that happens, that you know what’s going on.

And that’s exactly when you are at risk.

Preventing infinite loop bubbles in your small business is fairly simple, but not always easy. Why not? Because a prevention program requires that the person in power has the self-worth to allow himself/herself to be challenged.

For those with the guts, here are three techniques for preventing infinite loop bubbles:

1. Have a Jerk-O-Meter: Make sure there is one person in your life/business that won’t hesitate to tell you when you are acting like a jerk.
2. Appoint a corporate fool: Give someone the job of asking “stupid” questions about policies, processes, and assumptions.
3. Use the Mom test: If you would you be embarrassed to have your mother read about it on the front page of the newspaper or on Google News, think again.

Don’t miss out on great small business ideas or information that could harm your business by letting yourself be trapped in an infinite loop bubble.

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Young small business diva at work

Strategy #1: Treat Your Small Business Employees Like Interchangeable Pegs

Just like wooden pegs, employees can be yanked from one spot and shoved into another. After all, if you’ve seen one peg, you’ve seen them all. Treat employees like inventory, perhaps using the first-in-first-out rule—each time a new employee is hired, fire the most senior employee. The beauty of this rule is that it also saves costs by replacing a high salary with a low one. Or, why not borrow from the clean-out-your-clutter gurus and get rid of any employee you haven’t seen in six months?

Strategy #2: Never Define Expectations

One of the best small business ideas for management is to be as vague as possible when asked for explanations or expectations. If you never define expectations, you will never be wrong. Create secret standards and then punish those who don’t live up to them. If questioned, employ a useful phrase like, “You know what I’m looking for” or “A good employee would figure it out.”

Strategy #3: Believe Your Own Press

Assume that people have ceased disagreeing with you because of your sudden attack of brilliance—not your positional power. If someone does dare to express a difference of opinion, be sure to make an example of them. Public floggings are a preferred method.

Strategy #4: Treat Your Small Business Distributors and Vendors with Disdain

When you get the idea your small business is in vogue, use it as an opportunity to throw your weight around, dictating terms to anyone who has an idea for doing business with you. After all, you never really believed that old saying: “Goes around, comes around.”

Strategy #5: Never Admit Mistakes

If someone dares to accuse you of making a mistake, use the “everyone else does it” defense. Mom surely wasn’t talking about business when she said, “If everyone was jumping off a cliff, would you jump, too?”

Strategy #6: Yes, Virginia, There IS a Silver Bullet Solution

If a solution can’t be explained on a single piece of paper, it’s obviously too complex to be successful as an idea for your small business. Instead, hold out for those silver bullet solutions, the ones that solve every problem in the business with one tiny, inexpensive change.

Strategy #7: Don’t Invest in Anything if You Cannot Calculate ROI

If you can’t see it, touch it, control it, and crunch the numbers, it’s obviously a poor investment. Intangibles, intellectual property, and social media are economic myths, sure to be debunked at any moment.

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Heart and dollars

I was thrilled to be in his presence as The Dalai Lama accepted the International Freedom Conductor Award. As he answered questions, I could not help but think about how his ideas fit small business social media.

I am a student and long-time fan of The Dalai Lama. I admire his humor, inquiring mind, openness to different viewpoints, honesty, and, of course, his unstinting compassion.

There is much talk and debate in the social media world and in the small business community about the concept of trust: How do you build trust with customers? How do you keep that trust? What are the elements that encourage someone to trust your business or your product?

The Dalai Lama hit it right on the head for me, “Can you buy trust through money, through power, through force? No.”

He went on about how we can win respect and trust; explaining that with truth and transparency, there is an immediate heart to heart connection, which brings us closer.

In my small business coaching practice, I have always tried to lead from the heart. To speak the truth (even when it cost me business), and to make a real connection.

My challenge is to do this as I learn how to connect on Twitter, Facebook, in forums and other social media sites. Sometimes I feel the technology is a gift, allowing me to connect with many more people. On the other hand, sometimes I feel the technology is a taskmaster, pushing me to try to express myself in an unnatural way.

But the technology is just a tool. How we use it is our choice. Some people use it to share their knowledge, some to boost their egos, some to push their products, some to have conversations, and so on.

After being with The Dalai Lama, I realize that as I learn how to make social media work for Small Business Divas, I can model the characteristics I admire about him. WWDLD?

To lead with my heart, to have an inquiring mind, to be open to different viewpoints, to strive for honesty, and to show compassion…most of the time. Hey, I can’t totally give up my rants and raves, my strange sense of humor, and the compulsion to point out the man behind the curtain!

That is my small business social media policy.  

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women sharing ideas for starting a small business

Ariana Huffington, founder of the Huffington Post, is a savvy business woman and is now turning her energies toward helping us create more jobs by featuring small business ideas and stories of people starting a small business.

In her post announcing the Small Business America blog, Ariana says, “Through the creative use of technology, social media, and a focus on community, this new wave of small businesses is making its mark in a true convergence of left and right. At the moment, our government may be can’t-do, but more and more of our citizens are solidly can-do — and irrepressibly American.

To turn a spotlight on this nascent movement and encourage its continued growth, HuffPost is launching Small Business America, a new blog sponsored by FedEx where entrepreneurs can exchange ideas, get advice, and keep up with the latest small business news. Small Business America’s contributors will run the gamut from CEOs to mom-and-pop business owners to policy-makers, business writers, professors, and social media experts.”

I’m happy to see the Huffington Post join the community of small business advocacy. As you’ve heard me say before, I believe our business world would be a much better place if more women were starting a small business. It’s why Small Business Divas was born.

I agree that the government would be more effective in pushing us out of this recession if they invested in real small businesses, and I do not consider a business with several hundred employees to be a ‘small business’ even if the SBA does. Money invested in small businesses would have a much bigger payback than the current policy of investing in Wall Street and expecting it to trickle down. As Stephen Colbert demonstrated on the Colbert Report, trickle down economics is the equivalent of Colbert drinking a beer and expecting the resulting trickle to have a positive impact!

I like that the new Small Business America blog is featuring stories about real small business startups and about small businesses that are focused on helping other small businesses. I hope they continue to focus on a variety of small businesses and don’t just feature the sexy technology startups that seem to have hypnotized the other media outlets.

As I wrote in Gems: Real-World Advice from Real Women in Small Business, “When I first thought about this book, I knew that I wanted to de-mystify the idea of having your own business. It seems that only the big businesswomen or those with ‘sexy’ businesses get attention in this society. The women who run small businesses but aren’t famous or controversial or acting out on the latest reality show are virtually invisible.

I hope that by reading this book, you will see that there are smart, savvy, small business ’divas’ that might be right around your corner, certainly right in your community. And they have the brains and guts to follow their dreams.”

I’ll be following the Small Business America blog, will you?

P.S. You can get your free GEMS here!

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Is the myth that there is ‘one right way’ keeping you from starting a small business? If it is, you are not alone.

‘One right way’ is pervasive in our business culture. It keeps many people from succeeding in their careers. It crushes innovation in businesses that badly need it. And, from talking with people who are thinking about starting a small business, it also stops people from following their dreams.

There has been a lot of conversation about a blog post written on a high-traffic site by a young woman who decided to part ways with her small business. Her assertion is that women don’t want to start up a business because they would rather raise kids.

As you can imagine, her assertion provoked many responses. Me? I believe she was trying to justify her own choice by mouthing old stereotypes about women and about small business.

It’s clear that the woman is a victim of ‘one right way’ thinking. She believes that the only ‘real’ small businesses are those funded by venture capitalists and that few women choose that route because they can’t handle the pace and hours.

First, let me say I agree with her assertion that whenever you trade a significant piece of your business for money from others, you are sacrificing the ability to shape your business the way you choose. That applies whether you take venture capital funding or take a company public. From that moment on, your business is driven by interests that may not match your own.

However, I completely disagree with the idea that a business that does not sell out for money is not a real business. Sure, there are people who start a business with the idea of selling out and making a pile of money. But there are many more with reasons for starting a small business that are more about creative control, making their own rules, fulfilling dreams, and supporting a lifestyle they choose.

And those so-called lifestyle businesses, as this woman labels them, are chosen by both men and women, alike.

As a woman who has been around long enough to have lived in the days when women did not have as many choices, I can understand that a much younger woman might not understand all of the dynamics that shape people’s choices. It is clear that she jumped to faulty conclusions based on her own situation. I suppose that if her conclusions help her deal with what appears to be a difficult choice, I can understand.

But, I must take a stand.

I refuse to let this kind of misinformation stop even one woman from starting her own business.

Will you join me? Stand up for your choice of AND.  Help me debunk the small business myth of ‘one right way.’

Interested in reading more viewpoints on this controversy? Check out ” Women Want to Run Startups, Have Children, Own a Farm……and they Can!” on 365 Days of Startups.

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Small Business Organization

A lot of small business people constantly strive to be organized. But one of the stumbling blocks to being ‘organized’ is the need to do it perfectly.

The desire to be perfectly organized, with the perfect filing system, the perfect to-do list, and the perfect scheduling tool, often keeps small business owners from being organized at all.

The solution? Try imperfection.

For example, some people think that because electronic systems exist, or because their electronic system holds all of the information they might ever need, they should give up a paper-based system that works for them. The problem is that electronic systems were developed for a specific purpose by a specific person (or team) and it may not suit your needs.

But isn’t using two systems in your small business inefficient? Not if that is what works.

I use the usual electronic systems for my schedule, contacts, and deadlines, but a paper To-Do list. The electronics can hold a lot of information, but they don’t give me the holistic picture of my week, broken into the categories that work for me to function effectively. So I pair the electronic system with my own paper system.

Imperfect. But definitely effective.

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Small Business Success Tips

After years of working with small business owners and talking to people about starting a small business, I’ve learned there are a number of myths that keep people from starting or succeeding.

One is the fantasy of silver bullet success. This fantasy involves having the million-dollar idea, or being discovered by someone important, or some other avenue for magically succeeding overnight.

Another myth is that there is some kind of mystique involved in having a small business, so until you can penetrate that mystery, you shouldn’t even try.

If you are living with one of these myths, and prefer to stay that way, don’t read this ebook.

If you are ready to debunk those myths (or you have somehow avoided them) you will find real-life experiences and advice on every page in this book.

In GEMS, sixteen small business women share their inspiring stories, their challenges, and their tips for success. These women are in a wide variety of small businesses, including professional service firms, artists, travel industry professionals, graphic designers and illustrators, and not-for-profit.

I asked the kind of questions that you would ask if you sat down for a cup of coffee with one of these inspiring divas.

In GEMS, you will hear from women like Donna Maukonen of Maui Media on ignoring people who say you can’t make money doing what you enjoy. From illustrator and artist Judy Stead and artist Audrey Phillips on having confidence in yourself, especially during tough economic times. And from Krystal Simpkins of SteveBedwell.com on knowing that no one has all of the answers.

The women in GEMS offer thoughtful advice for what you should keep in mind when starting a small business, from the perspective of their real-world experience.

Coach Stefanie Zizzo talks about sticking it out through the startup rollercoaster. Tracey Brandt of Rising Lotus Children’s Village likens launching a venture to having kids. And freelance writer Christine Giordano and graphic designer Tanya Back emphasize the need for a plan (and a backup plan).

Even the women I interviewed tell me they are impressed and inspired by the stories and advice from the other women in the book.

I hope that by reading this book, you will see that there are smart, savvy, small business divas that might be right around your corner, certainly right in your community. And they have the brains and guts to follow their dreams.

I hope this book inspires you to follow yours, whether that is starting a small business, growing your business, or reinventing one.  Get your free copy here: Small Business Divas’ Gems

P.S. You live a busy life, so the ebook is formatted for easy reading on your favorite electronic pal. And you can feel free to share the ebook with your friends!

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